Life

Acceptance

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Today’s post is a bit more personal than the other topics normally shared. It does eventually tie in to health, but it mostly is an update on our situation.

It turns out that the name “Crossroad Health” has been more foretelling than I could have imagined. I’ve alluded to a few stressful weeks and I think it is about time to explain so the readers have a better understanding of what the next months will hold.

For those of you that don’t know us personally, my husband is a professor. He had a visiting position last year in Hawaii and currently has a visiting position again this year in San Antonio. We learned a few weeks ago that there will not be an opportunity for him to continue at his current university, so we’ve hit the application process hard over the past month. Tenure-track (or even reasonably permanent non tenure-track) positions are notoriously hard to come by, especially in cross-disciplinary fields.

We’re tired of moving. We’ve moved 7,524 miles (12,109 km) across two oceans just a year and a half ago and 3,707 miles (5,966 km) across an ocean just six months ago. We’re tired and we’re ready to stay in one place. We don’t regret the past moves because we’ve had amazing opportunities to live and travel for four years in Europe and one year in Hawaii. We’ve even enjoyed our time in San Antonio! So we’re certainly not complaining, but we just can’t keep uprooting our lives every 12 months (or less).

As of today, Dominik has applied to 41 universities and we have many more to go. I say this because it isn’t so simple as just applying for three or four jobs and getting one. Often the universities receive hundreds of applications for each position. Based on the process (hopefully), he’ll be flown out to several interviews and ideally receive at least one offer. It is competitive and draining. We didn’t restrict our locations, so the positions are all over the U.S. Only one opening was even in Texas, so we’re probably looking at another signifiant move.

It is draining to spend every evening and weekend on applications, sacrificing your free time and holidays so you can hopefully live in one place longer than a year.

I don’t share this for pity purposes, but for community. A few weeks ago I posted on the importance of community. In order for us to find a community, we need to live somewhere for more than one year.

Additionally, I recently shared the post on stress. I honestly would not have been able to make it through the last few weeks without some of the strategies I mentioned in that post. If I hadn’t defeated my cravings through the Whole30, I would have devoured every junk food in sight. Instead, I have nourished my body with healthy foods, keeping my insulin levels and moods stable. If I hadn’t been working out multiple days a week I think I would have been unable to function. It has been an excellent outlet for frustrating days. I’ve also turned to 10 minute stress-relief yoga now and then when I feel especially crazy.

I also cannot tell you how much accepting our current situation has helped deal with this. It sounds simple, but accepting that this is where we are and we can’t currently change that situation is very helpful. We’re not victims. We sort-of have rolled all our energy into doing something about it, filling out all the applications and searching for new positions, rather than wallowing.

To summarize, life happens. Everyone has stress in their life. Your stress may look different from mine, but it still exists. We need community and we need to manage our stress. If you don’t feel especially stressed right now, I encourage you to start creating healthy habits now. When a stressful situation does come your way you’ll be able to handle it easier than if you hadn’t worked on a strong foundation.

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2 Comments

  1. You write so well. Have enjoyed following your travels.
    Prayers for you and your husband as you wait for your next venture.

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